“Straighten” Up

Photo/Graphic By: Brightwood Entertainment

Words By: Verbally Speaking

For those individuals in and out of the gay community I come to you seeking an answer I’ve yet to understand. This article was not written with the intent of offending anyone but because of the sensitivity of the topic at hand there’s no way to avoid it. I’m not writing this to judge or preach The Bible but I will express my opinion and the beliefs I was raised with and have developed over time so that readers can get an understanding from where I’m coming from, so that I can better understand where you are coming from. Nobody wants their feelings hurt but sometimes you have to push the envelope by asking the hard questions.

As we all know, homosexuality is rarely a secret anymore. In fact, today’s society has shown a level of tolerance and acceptance for homosexuals through different forms of media and by involving the Government. With new laws passed, public “Pride” marches and gay celebrities taking a stand, it’s safe to say being “gay” is no longer a big deal. Every day it seems, someone new is now gay and they have a story to back it up. I honestly don’t care and if you are proud of your choice so be it but why do you feel the need to be so flamboyant about it? Isn’t kissing the same gender or wearing rainbow attire proof enough? I know this isn’t true for all and I can’t speak for everybody, but I personally don’t want to see a woman grabbing at her lower region like she has something hanging. And I damn sure don’t want to see any man switching east to west as if he’s shaking his ass in the club. It just uncalled for and in truth, it’s insulting.

As a straight woman it bothers me seeing gay men dramatize femininity and I wouldn’t doubt the same feelings apply to heterosexual men seeing gay women dramatize their masculinity. You claim to not have any connection; emotionally, physically, mentally, but you still act, talk, dress and behave as if you are in fact a “man” or “woman”. God made us all to be different and whatever sex you were born that’s what He intended you to be and what you will forever be. I don’t care if you have all the surgeries, take all the medication available and play the part because at the end of the day you will still be that man or woman God created. I just don’t see the point in portraying yourself as someone you aren’t.

Sure you have the swag on point but what about when the gimmick comes off? Does all that effort even matter then when you’re faced with you? There have been numerous occasions when I’ve mistaken a man to be a woman and a woman to be a man and I must admit its jaw dropping. I don’t know if I should be in awe or disgust, jealous or appalled. Sure I’m used to it but that doesn’t mean I like it. It’s not cute no matter who can pull it off. Wearing clothing that looks like before and after shots from a major weight loss wont hide your womanhood just like eye shadow and lip gloss wont disguise your strong jaw line, keep it simple. Maybe I’m old fashioned but when I look at someone; gay or straight; I want to know who I’m looking at. I’m not saying hide in the darkest corner and stay on the down low, nor am I saying scream “IM GAY” at the top of your lungs. However, some of you should think twice on how you display your “pride” in the way that you carry yourself. Have some class instead of showing out like you have something to prove.